I Miss You...

I was blessed to know and have somebody in my life like Irmela Chapp. She was diagnosed with Lymphoma in the fall of 2008 and went to be with Jesus One Year Ago... on November 1, 2008. She was the kind of mother who lived for her children, grandchildren, husband, friends & whoever needed her. She is loved and is missed dearly by everyone who knew her.

Although it's already been one year... it seems like yesterday you were here. I'm sure like me... we all sometimes think, you are still here somewhere. There's little signs of you everywhere ...all the special things you did for everyone you loved... they just keep showing up at the times we need them most... it must be YOU!

Here is a Poem a wrote a while back... It's fits perfect as we all remember Irmela Chapp ...One Year Later!

"I Miss YOU" by: Scott OBrien

Every morning I Wake Up to Begin a New Day
The thought of NOT seeing YOU never Goes Away.
As I go about the daily things I normally do...
almost every hour that goes by... I think of YOU.
I'd Love to call YOU... just to hear your voice
Then I realize... I don't anymore have that choice.
YOU are not there anymore... my heart wants to cry
I wish to see you again... just to tell YOU goodbye.
The day that you left, I didn't really know...
YOU were going to go... where I couldn't go.
All my memories of YOU are so near and dear
How I miss YOU and wish YOU were here.
Who will hear me while I cry?
I never thought I'd ever say goodbye.
I know in my heart, someday all will be well
I'll see YOU again and we'll have stories to tell
Of how much YOU were missed and how we have grown
And how good it is to finally have YOU back home.
Until then... my memories of YOU, I'll keep near
And I'll pass them on to everyone who is dear.
I Miss YOU...

WHO IS RESPONSIBLE FOR THE LOVE IN YOUR LIFE?

I am responsible for the love, joy and happiness in my own life. When I depend on others for these things I can be left disappointed and can fall into the blame game which does not work. When I become those things inside myself I attract those people who vibrate those things.

WHO is responsible for your happiness, your joy and the love in your so sweet life?

YOU, of course.

Seems obvious but the root of so much of our unhappiness and our despair is when we expect, trust or make others responsible for how we feel.

So many of us go through life blaming so and so for our unhappiness, our lack of joy, our poor relationship.

We sink when our lover is in a bad mood, we swim when they feel good... we become dependent so much on the mood and countenance of others in our life.

If our boss praises us, we feel on cloud nine.

If we are criticised because he or she is in a foul mood, we drop into the depths of despair and want to quit.

We need so much to remember this truth... and truth it most certainly is...

And it's that the good in your and my life is not dependent on anyone or, indeed, anything outside of ourselves.

We are bound to get a knock or two if we expect others to be responsible for our joy or our happiness.

The joy comes from within ourselves.

Of course, others can share this with us. Others are welcome indeed as they dance with us.

The love in our life comes from within ourselves.

Of course, we share love with others but unless we have this knowledge and acceptance that we are love then we might be clinging onto and seeking people to meet our needs who lack that which we really require in our lives.

The happiness in our life comes from within ourselves... when we make the decision to be happy.

If we rely on others to make us happy because of the attention they give to us or the way they are with us then we will be unhappy when they do not mirror back to us all the good inside of us which we wish to see reflected.

Love, happiness, joy, harmony, peace and all that we associate with pure love are states of mind within ourselves.

When we become love, we most probably become happy and joyful and all the rest.

But until we become love, we are searching outside of ourselves for the right medicine to put us in the right frame of mind.

And just like the addict erroneously expects the material of their addiction to lift their consciousness, we are also addicts in using others in our life for our temporary fix.

If we want the permanent fix... the enduring background feeling of love, peace, harmony and joy... then we need to go inside of ourselves and realise, perhaps for the first time, that we are responsible for all that we wish to have in our life.

Once we have become that which we wish to attract, then we will find those people vibrating at that same loving frequency being drawn into our lives and energetically we will include ourselves and even propel ourselves into the lives of like minded souls.

When we are seeking, when we depend, when we make others responsible for how we feel then we do indeed attract the like minded but they will also be needy, lacking and desperate people and they might well come and go in our life, be close one moment and distance themselves in the next... because such is their pattern.

Feel unloved inside... we might get those who find it hard to love.

Feel unhappy inside... we might be a magnet for the discontented and unhappy.

Feel joyless.. then we might find the most miserable of people entering our space.

Feel worthless.. then we might get those coming into our life who do not value us.

But become love, become happiness, become joy and become worthy... and we will find those in our life will be good lovers, happy and joyful folk and those who not only value themselves but also will value us.

Today make your own love.

Today make your own joy

Today make your own happiness

And see how the world changes for you as it surely will.

So dear and so beautiful friend.. do open your heart and share what is going on for you on this subject or any subject

I love you,
Scott OBrien

GIVE WHAT YOU MOST WISH TO RECEIVE...

AS I give to others, I receive myself. It is in giving that we receive and what I most want for myself is more likely to manifest when I give it to another.

AS we give to others, we receive ourselves.

So if what we most wish for ourselves we give to another, just what could we be giving this day?

If we wish to feel more loved, then we could indeed make others feel more loved.

If we wish to feel more connected and less lonely, we could reach out to those who are lonelier still or need our connection with them.

If we wish to feel more joyful, we could provide joy in the lives of others.

And if we want more prosperity, we can give abundantly to others in our life.

So, often we crave for things that we are not prepared to contemplate giving to others.

We bemoan the lack of close friends yet we will fail to be a close friend to others in our life.

We want others to appreciate and acknowledge us, and yet we go about our life with our head down not noticing or praising others who are in our path.

Ultimately we need to become that which is our true nature.

So if we wish to be a loving and fulfilled person we also need to become Love.

Because until we become love than it stands to reason that we will have unloving encounters because we have not defined our life purpose or who we truly are in relation to our life.

We will never obtain joy, happiness and love in our life unless we are prepared to offer it to others.

We can give so much of what we wish to receive simply by raising our energy level.

As we increase our own energy level and higher the rate at which we vibrate so other people will be drawn to our presence... will connect with us.

As we become love, we will be surrounded by all those who need that love and will be loving towards us.

As we become anything, we will attract into our lives that which we are.

So a fearful person, will bring all sorts of fearful encounters in his or her consciousness.

Conversely, a loving kind person will attract a myriad of people who will allow the expression of that loving kindness.

And as like attracts like, it is reasonable and rational to suppose that a kind and compassionate person will also be bringing other kind and compassionate people into their life.

If we want to see our relationship improve, we need to put our energy and heart and soul into the relationship.

If we want more friends, we need to be a friend.

If we want more love, we have to be more loving.

If we want to feel less lonely, we have to go out and meet more people... drawing others out of their loneliness.

If you want something in your life simply give it to another.

What you wish for can be manifested naturally and with ease when you become and have that which you wish to be manifested.

So think carefully what you wish for in your life and then make sure you give it to another or others.

This is the surest and most successful way to draw it into your own life.

It is in giving we receive.

So dear and special friend... do open your heart and share what is going on for you on this subject or any subject...

I love you,
Scott OBrien

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YOU AND I ARE OK... SO OK

I am OK the way I am... I need to accept and love myself as I am and to love and accept others for who they are. I steer away from those who make me feel I am not OK and surround myself from those who celebrate my worth in the world.

YOU ARE OK

I AM OK

We are all OK

How did we ever get to feel that we are not OK?

Let us fully embrace just how OK we are in the universe... rather than beat ourselves up on how we are not OK or listen and take heed of those who would preach a not OK message.

You and I need to accept and love ourselves as we are.

It is true that our behaviour can take some improvement... but this change will happen in the NOW and there will be little point going over and over old ground.

The best thing about the past is that it is over.

Now we are in the present.. and this is where our happiness, joy and loving expression dwells.

Close your ears and eyes to anyone who tries to make others, including you, of course, not OK about themselves.

You are OK the way you look... each of us is an unique work of art and there is no text book or stereotype to say we should be looking this way or that or we need to be this way or that to be attractive.

People are attractive because of the love that is in their heart... and they become even more attractive when they express it and shine.

When we shine we are all attractive.

Some very ordinary looking people glow, really glow through their smiles and their warmth and their love... and become eminently more attractive than all the magazine cover girls or boys put together.

You are OK where you are in your life.

You are not inferior to anyone else.

You have chosen your path to express yourselves as love and there is nothing wrong with your path just as there is nothing wrong with the paths of others.

Only judgment can get in the way.

You are OK to speak your truths.... surround yourself with those who will give you the respect of listening to you.

You are OK to show your feelings... feel free to express how you feel.

You do not have to conceal emotion or become someone else just to win approval from others.

You are OK feeling the way you do.

You are OK to express love.

You do not have to hold back on telling someone you love them or how much they mean to you.

And you are OK to be you.

You don't have to conform to how others expect you to be or hide your light under a bushel because you don't believe you deserve to be under the spotlight.

You are YOU

And when you are authentically YOU you have the freedom to express yourself in a loving and purposeful way

It is when you are not authentic, when you are trying to be someone whom you are not or living in a space of a fear that you can experience unloving experiences, contributed to by yourself and delivered to you.

But when you are feeling OK about yourself... you are a step away from being in love for most of the time.

So my beautiful friend... You are OK and I am OK... so OK

I love you,
Scott OBrien

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IT PAYS TO THINK BIG

I am playing big. It does not serve me to play small. To have a life filled with meaning and purpose I need to take the stage in my own life and to shine the spotlight on my greater good. If I think big, I attract big experiences into my life.

IT serves us to think BIG

It also serves us to play BIG

And it pays us to avoid the small version of ourselves and our life.

Too many of us concentrate too much effort and time on the small version of themselves... and on others.

Too many people underestimate themselves... play themselves down... fail to take the stage which becomes their real life.

So why do we just find it so hard to play BIG?

But if we wish to have a life filled with meaning and purpose and, of course, fulfilment we need to play out our bigger picture.

We need to shine our light.

We need to shout from the rooftops.

We need to come out... to speak out... to proclaim... to be noticed.

Souls unexpressed hide behind others, stay out of the spotlight, fail to leave their front door for fear of what might lie beyond.

Souls unexpressed do not move out of their comfort zone.

But a soul seeking expression goes out into the world with passion and purpose.

A soul seeking expression rocks... a soul seeking expression is not afraid to be outspoken... a soul seeking expression is not afraid to go against the crowd when the crowd is not speaking love.. and a soul seeking expression is not scared of anyone.

To live our purpose we have to be prepared to do what our heart tells us even if our mind is saying it is too risky, too demanding, will take too long or is to unorthodox.

To live our purpose we have to take new paths, chart new waters and take on board new challenges.

Life happens when we take action... not when we procrastinate or hold back or are afraid of change.

If we want to reflect in our life our true nature... who we really are... our essence which is love, of course...we have to release what keeps us small.

We have to release what limits us.

We have to release what restricts our freedom to sing our song or dance our dance.

We have to release that which keeps us in the fear zone because we really need to be in the room of love.

So it is time we gave up bad energy, bad habits, addictions, negative behaviour and relationships that have allowed us to stay small.

So it is time we gave up getting involved in other people's dramas, attracting the same old non working relationships and putting up with the same old abuse.

So much of our life is unproductive, time wasting and energy draining.

This is the part we need to see less of and let go of... so that we can fulfill our life's purpose.

We now have to live the story that is held in our beautiful hearts and get away from the repeating patterns that seem to be recorded in our out of control minds.

When we feel and act small, we are putting out a message to the universe that we are small... and small is lacking.

Therefore, we are more than likely to attract into our life other people and other situations that confirm this so called reality to us.. small people attract small people and small things.

But when we feel and act big, we are putting out a message to the universe that we are abundantly large.

So we draw into our lives larger and more fulfilling experiences that mirror back to us how big we are in the scheme of things.

To connect with our highest vision, our highest good and, indeed, our highest self we need to proclaim and feel our magnificence.

This is not arrogance or conceit.

In fact, the arrogant are usually people who lack self esteem and have a low opinion of themselves so they put on an unauthentic veneer.

So today, let us play BIG. And as we think and become BIG, we manifest experiences which bring about our greater good and greater well being. We become GREAT

And our souls just need to be GREAT.

So dear and beautiful friend.... do open your heart and share what is going on for you on this subject or any subject

I love you,
Scott OBrien

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REACHING OUT TO TOUCH PEOPLE....

I recognise my need for affection.. to reach out to hold, hug and embrace fellow human beings. I also appreciate the need to receive love from others and the freedom to express this in appropriate and honouring ways.

The greatest hunger in the world is not for food but for love, said Mother Teresa

And so many of us are starved of affection.

So many of us are so deprived of physical affection and touch as children that this is a pattern that continues in our adult life. It is a pattern that can be broken and we need not feel this barrier to physical closeness in our relationships.

The absence of physical closeness between human beings is the social hunger of our times.

Psychologists have long theorised how the absence of touch and intimacy during a person's childhood can lead to problems in later life.

So many of us were not hugged, cuddled or held as much as we would have wished as children.

And not surprisingly, so many of us are not hugged, cuddled or held as much as we would like as adults.

This can increase our feeling of isolation, separation and disunity.

But it does not have to be like that... we can make more effort to introduce healing touch into our lives.

We can get physically closer without crossing the border of being sexually inappropriate, whatever that is meant to be.

We have all been conditioned to be cautious about touching people because if might be confused with the expression of sexual attraction.

And because so many people are wary of being misunderstood it is true that for many unless they enjoy an intimate sexual relationship they might well be denied touch during their adult life

The truth is that so many people do not know how to handle affection on a day to day basis.

Many of us would rather have plain old affection rather than sex.

And yet for many sex is seen as a means to achieve this human need of affection.

So many feel used when their lovers are affectionate only when they want sex.

But affection is the expression of our love for people in our lives.

And it need not be a signal or a lead to have sex.

How free we are when we experience the joy in able to hug and touch whomever we like... with their permission of course.

When connecting with a friend or someone close, why not ask them if they would like a hug.

In that way, there can be little misunderstanding about the intention just to hold someone.

Let us take someone's hand... hold someone close...connect with a smile, a warm touch.

Osho said that analysis is the way of the mind but hugging is the way of the heart.

So let us make an effort to get closer to people.. provided that they are comfortable with this.

When we meet a close friend, why don't we tell them how much we love them and how we appreciate their friendship and then offer them a warm hug?

When we love other people sometimes words are not enough.. the way of the heart is to hold the hand, hug the person, kiss the person, embrace the person.

Sometimes hugging is confined to church groups, workshops or family reunions but how wonderful it would be if we could take that out into our everyday life... so that barriers would fall down more and we could all get closer.

Let us all melt into a hug more freely.

When we are so close to another person that we can hug them, it is far less likely we would ever wish to hurt them and so a great community healing takes place.

It is when we feel we are not able to hug people and place ourselves at a distance from other people that the world becomes a lot less safer.

A blissful world comes about when people are able to hold, hug and cuddle one another... in a free and respectful way.

So dear and beautiful friend... do open your heart, share what is going on for you on this subject or any subject

I love you,
Scott OBrien

10-Ways To Show Love To Your Child

All parents love their children. But in their busy life style they don’t have the time to show their affection to the child. But for the healthy mental development of the child, showing the parental love to the child is very important. Here are 10 ways for the parents to show their love towards their children.

1. A friendly chat with the child
A friendly, non–preachy talk to the child would make the child feel very happy.

2. Learn to listen
Kids have a habit talking a lot and parents ignore most of it. Instead if the parents try to pay attention to few of the conversations then it would be great. Sometimes, there may be important information that the parents must know and may not know by closing their ears.

3. Express love in writing
A good way to express the parental love to the child would be scribble a few words in a piece of paper and place it where the child would not miss it. Kids feel motivated when they find such notes, greeting cards, post cards, stickers, etc especially from their parents under the pillow or in the backpack.

4. Play and have fun together
It’s not necessary to sit in one place at a specific time and play with the child everyday. Parents could play simple word games or counting games on the way to the school or while going on long drives etc. It would make the trip interesting and enjoyable for the child.

5. Cuddles and kisses
As the child grows from baby to toddler and older, the hugs and kisses from the parents reduce drastically. But even when the kids get older, they like their parents hugging them and kissing them to express their love. This physical contact would bring the parents and children closer to each other.

6. Reading, singing together
Reading stories, singing rhymes etc brings the parents and children closer to each other. This can be practiced even with older children by taking turns to reading longer stories and discussing about it.

7. Appreciate the child’s positive
The children’s positives should be appreciated in front of them and as well as behind their backs. This would motivate them and also raise their self esteem.

8. Surprises
Every body likes surprises, so do kids. It’s wonderful to way to express love by taking them for surprise holidays or outings to their favorite place.

9. Involving the child in family affairs
Its lot just enough letting the child choose their own clothes, bags and books. If they are included in decision making in the family affairs like when and where to go on holiday, what to do on the weekend etc , they feel they play important role in the family.

10. Ask for suggestions
Sometimes kids come up with excellent ideas they the older ones cant think of. It’s not a bad idea to ask them for some advice at times.

Love Your Kids and Say I Love You Everyday... they are NEVER too Old!

Scott OBrien,
Proud Dad of 3 Great Kids!
I Love You... Brandon, Kaetlin, and Kerick

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