Happy Valentines Day! ...What is LOVE?

First off... Happy Valentines Day! I hope you're having a wonderful day today and I'm sending YOU some extra "Love" just so you know you ARE very loved. :)

You see, LOVE is actually very important to me. Love is a common word and often said without meaning... some never experience love... some are truly loved... and some never knew love until it was gone.

I wanted to remind YOU that on Valentines Day... we celebrate LOVE...

Today is NOT the day we FORGET what love is really about.

YES... the media plays Valentines Day off like it's this sweetie pie, romantic, intimate thing between two lovers...

For a lot of people... Valentines Day is Chocolate, Flowers, Cards, Dinner, Romantic Weekends and more...

Don't get me wrong... I am in that group too! : )

But Valentines Day should be a lot MORE than that.

In fact, there's a whole lot more to love then just having a romantic partner...

It pains me sometimes to see the "Extent" of people's love end at only the people they know... Spouse, Children, Family, Friends, Relatives, Co-workers and maybe a familiar face is the only circle of love for them.

You see... True Love, isn't really about one person.

True Love... has no definitions.

True Love has no boundaries.

True Love makes NO discrimination.

The hallmark of true love is that it's UNCONDITIONAL...

And LOVE exists NATURALLY without any expectation of return.

Think about how the SUN shines on our entire planet, day in and day out, giving us ALL LIFE and providing life for almost every single creature on our planet...

And it asks NOTHING in return, yet gives us so much.

THAT is what I call unconditional love.

This my friend... is what we should be celebrating, and spreading on Valentines Day.

Every spiritual teacher over the last few thousand years has been trying to teach us this message of unconditional love.

Yet as a society... we seldom want to listen because it's HARD.

It's hard for many of us to LOVE your neighbor...

It's hard to Love the clerk after you stand in line too long...

It's hard to LOVE the person who pulled into the parking spot you have been patiently waiting for...

Most of the times... we are trained to DISLIKE these people.

We're told it's OK to think negatively of them at this point...

However, when we do this...

We are NOT coming from a place of unconditional love within ourselves.

When we do this... we are DENYING the very love we want for ourselves, from FORMING within us.

You see, most people think that "Getting Love" is the rewarding part...

But they're wrong.

They haven't been paying close enough attention.

Giving LOVE is the rewarding part.

Being the one who LOVES is the part that is most fulfilling.

Because that's the part we feel from WITHIN.

When someone else loves us... of course it feels good. But that love is being generated from within them. Not us.

It's only when WE LOVE that we generate it from within, and get to feel it's effects all over our being.

and THAT my friend... is one of the most beautiful feelings in the world.

So on this day when we're suppose to be celebrating Love... I'd like to ask you to REMIND yourself of how you can be a more unconditionally loving person to everyone around you.

Remind yourself how YOU can be the one to put forth the "Extra" umphhh of love, without really needing anything in return.

I'd like you to challenge YOURSELF to be a more loving person in our world...

Regardless if the people around you, or the world, reciprocates back what you "Think" it should.

This is our essential challenge as aware, and personally Developed individuals in our modern society.

It's not about what "Other" people do any more.

It's about what WE DO.

It's about what WE CONTRIBUTE.

A lot of times I hear people complaining about all the lack in their life... or everything they're not getting from others.

Well, lets flip that equation on it's head real quick and instead of wasting our energy on that story...

Let's create a different one.

If you feel lack in your life...

Go out there and CONTRIBUTE something to someone else that you wish someone had done for you.

If you feel a lack of love in your life...

Go BE the Love for someone else, unconditionally, that you wish you had.

When we begin to live life in this way... dramatic shifts can happen in how we interact with our world.

And from this place, we're able to create a far more rewarding, more uplifted life.

So that's all I wanted to say today. I hope you're having a fantastic day no matter what you're doing.

And remember... it's LOVING that makes us feel the best.

Not the other way around...

Think about ways you can love others and our world more...

And you'll be far more fulfilled then thinking about ways everyone and everything else can love you more. Trust me... :)

Happy Valentines Day and remember... I LOVE YOU
Scott OBrien

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Thanksgiving Prayer... Giving Thanks

God... this is a day for Giving Thanks and acknowledging that you are the source of all the blessings we enjoy today.

In spite of all the challenges we all face everyday, let us not forget all the things for which we are richly blessed. This is the day we say Thank You for all those blessings. Today is the day our family gathers to share our gratitude and love for one another. Lord, Bless us and our food, our family, our health and all those around us... and when we all get together again, let us not forget the many thankful things we talked about today. Thank you Lord... in Jesus name. AMEN

I Miss You...

I was blessed to know and have somebody in my life like Irmela Chapp. She was diagnosed with Lymphoma in the fall of 2008 and went to be with Jesus One Year Ago... on November 1, 2008. She was the kind of mother who lived for her children, grandchildren, husband, friends & whoever needed her. She is loved and is missed dearly by everyone who knew her.

Although it's already been one year... it seems like yesterday you were here. I'm sure like me... we all sometimes think, you are still here somewhere. There's little signs of you everywhere ...all the special things you did for everyone you loved... they just keep showing up at the times we need them most... it must be YOU!

Here is a Poem a wrote a while back... It's fits perfect as we all remember Irmela Chapp ...One Year Later!

"I Miss YOU" by: Scott OBrien

Every morning I Wake Up to Begin a New Day
The thought of NOT seeing YOU never Goes Away.
As I go about the daily things I normally do...
almost every hour that goes by... I think of YOU.
I'd Love to call YOU... just to hear your voice
Then I realize... I don't anymore have that choice.
YOU are not there anymore... my heart wants to cry
I wish to see you again... just to tell YOU goodbye.
The day that you left, I didn't really know...
YOU were going to go... where I couldn't go.
All my memories of YOU are so near and dear
How I miss YOU and wish YOU were here.
Who will hear me while I cry?
I never thought I'd ever say goodbye.
I know in my heart, someday all will be well
I'll see YOU again and we'll have stories to tell
Of how much YOU were missed and how we have grown
And how good it is to finally have YOU back home.
Until then... my memories of YOU, I'll keep near
And I'll pass them on to everyone who is dear.
I Miss YOU...

WHO IS RESPONSIBLE FOR THE LOVE IN YOUR LIFE?

I am responsible for the love, joy and happiness in my own life. When I depend on others for these things I can be left disappointed and can fall into the blame game which does not work. When I become those things inside myself I attract those people who vibrate those things.

WHO is responsible for your happiness, your joy and the love in your so sweet life?

YOU, of course.

Seems obvious but the root of so much of our unhappiness and our despair is when we expect, trust or make others responsible for how we feel.

So many of us go through life blaming so and so for our unhappiness, our lack of joy, our poor relationship.

We sink when our lover is in a bad mood, we swim when they feel good... we become dependent so much on the mood and countenance of others in our life.

If our boss praises us, we feel on cloud nine.

If we are criticised because he or she is in a foul mood, we drop into the depths of despair and want to quit.

We need so much to remember this truth... and truth it most certainly is...

And it's that the good in your and my life is not dependent on anyone or, indeed, anything outside of ourselves.

We are bound to get a knock or two if we expect others to be responsible for our joy or our happiness.

The joy comes from within ourselves.

Of course, others can share this with us. Others are welcome indeed as they dance with us.

The love in our life comes from within ourselves.

Of course, we share love with others but unless we have this knowledge and acceptance that we are love then we might be clinging onto and seeking people to meet our needs who lack that which we really require in our lives.

The happiness in our life comes from within ourselves... when we make the decision to be happy.

If we rely on others to make us happy because of the attention they give to us or the way they are with us then we will be unhappy when they do not mirror back to us all the good inside of us which we wish to see reflected.

Love, happiness, joy, harmony, peace and all that we associate with pure love are states of mind within ourselves.

When we become love, we most probably become happy and joyful and all the rest.

But until we become love, we are searching outside of ourselves for the right medicine to put us in the right frame of mind.

And just like the addict erroneously expects the material of their addiction to lift their consciousness, we are also addicts in using others in our life for our temporary fix.

If we want the permanent fix... the enduring background feeling of love, peace, harmony and joy... then we need to go inside of ourselves and realise, perhaps for the first time, that we are responsible for all that we wish to have in our life.

Once we have become that which we wish to attract, then we will find those people vibrating at that same loving frequency being drawn into our lives and energetically we will include ourselves and even propel ourselves into the lives of like minded souls.

When we are seeking, when we depend, when we make others responsible for how we feel then we do indeed attract the like minded but they will also be needy, lacking and desperate people and they might well come and go in our life, be close one moment and distance themselves in the next... because such is their pattern.

Feel unloved inside... we might get those who find it hard to love.

Feel unhappy inside... we might be a magnet for the discontented and unhappy.

Feel joyless.. then we might find the most miserable of people entering our space.

Feel worthless.. then we might get those coming into our life who do not value us.

But become love, become happiness, become joy and become worthy... and we will find those in our life will be good lovers, happy and joyful folk and those who not only value themselves but also will value us.

Today make your own love.

Today make your own joy

Today make your own happiness

And see how the world changes for you as it surely will.

So dear and so beautiful friend.. do open your heart and share what is going on for you on this subject or any subject

I love you,
Scott OBrien

GIVE WHAT YOU MOST WISH TO RECEIVE...

AS I give to others, I receive myself. It is in giving that we receive and what I most want for myself is more likely to manifest when I give it to another.

AS we give to others, we receive ourselves.

So if what we most wish for ourselves we give to another, just what could we be giving this day?

If we wish to feel more loved, then we could indeed make others feel more loved.

If we wish to feel more connected and less lonely, we could reach out to those who are lonelier still or need our connection with them.

If we wish to feel more joyful, we could provide joy in the lives of others.

And if we want more prosperity, we can give abundantly to others in our life.

So, often we crave for things that we are not prepared to contemplate giving to others.

We bemoan the lack of close friends yet we will fail to be a close friend to others in our life.

We want others to appreciate and acknowledge us, and yet we go about our life with our head down not noticing or praising others who are in our path.

Ultimately we need to become that which is our true nature.

So if we wish to be a loving and fulfilled person we also need to become Love.

Because until we become love than it stands to reason that we will have unloving encounters because we have not defined our life purpose or who we truly are in relation to our life.

We will never obtain joy, happiness and love in our life unless we are prepared to offer it to others.

We can give so much of what we wish to receive simply by raising our energy level.

As we increase our own energy level and higher the rate at which we vibrate so other people will be drawn to our presence... will connect with us.

As we become love, we will be surrounded by all those who need that love and will be loving towards us.

As we become anything, we will attract into our lives that which we are.

So a fearful person, will bring all sorts of fearful encounters in his or her consciousness.

Conversely, a loving kind person will attract a myriad of people who will allow the expression of that loving kindness.

And as like attracts like, it is reasonable and rational to suppose that a kind and compassionate person will also be bringing other kind and compassionate people into their life.

If we want to see our relationship improve, we need to put our energy and heart and soul into the relationship.

If we want more friends, we need to be a friend.

If we want more love, we have to be more loving.

If we want to feel less lonely, we have to go out and meet more people... drawing others out of their loneliness.

If you want something in your life simply give it to another.

What you wish for can be manifested naturally and with ease when you become and have that which you wish to be manifested.

So think carefully what you wish for in your life and then make sure you give it to another or others.

This is the surest and most successful way to draw it into your own life.

It is in giving we receive.

So dear and special friend... do open your heart and share what is going on for you on this subject or any subject...

I love you,
Scott OBrien

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YOU AND I ARE OK... SO OK

I am OK the way I am... I need to accept and love myself as I am and to love and accept others for who they are. I steer away from those who make me feel I am not OK and surround myself from those who celebrate my worth in the world.

YOU ARE OK

I AM OK

We are all OK

How did we ever get to feel that we are not OK?

Let us fully embrace just how OK we are in the universe... rather than beat ourselves up on how we are not OK or listen and take heed of those who would preach a not OK message.

You and I need to accept and love ourselves as we are.

It is true that our behaviour can take some improvement... but this change will happen in the NOW and there will be little point going over and over old ground.

The best thing about the past is that it is over.

Now we are in the present.. and this is where our happiness, joy and loving expression dwells.

Close your ears and eyes to anyone who tries to make others, including you, of course, not OK about themselves.

You are OK the way you look... each of us is an unique work of art and there is no text book or stereotype to say we should be looking this way or that or we need to be this way or that to be attractive.

People are attractive because of the love that is in their heart... and they become even more attractive when they express it and shine.

When we shine we are all attractive.

Some very ordinary looking people glow, really glow through their smiles and their warmth and their love... and become eminently more attractive than all the magazine cover girls or boys put together.

You are OK where you are in your life.

You are not inferior to anyone else.

You have chosen your path to express yourselves as love and there is nothing wrong with your path just as there is nothing wrong with the paths of others.

Only judgment can get in the way.

You are OK to speak your truths.... surround yourself with those who will give you the respect of listening to you.

You are OK to show your feelings... feel free to express how you feel.

You do not have to conceal emotion or become someone else just to win approval from others.

You are OK feeling the way you do.

You are OK to express love.

You do not have to hold back on telling someone you love them or how much they mean to you.

And you are OK to be you.

You don't have to conform to how others expect you to be or hide your light under a bushel because you don't believe you deserve to be under the spotlight.

You are YOU

And when you are authentically YOU you have the freedom to express yourself in a loving and purposeful way

It is when you are not authentic, when you are trying to be someone whom you are not or living in a space of a fear that you can experience unloving experiences, contributed to by yourself and delivered to you.

But when you are feeling OK about yourself... you are a step away from being in love for most of the time.

So my beautiful friend... You are OK and I am OK... so OK

I love you,
Scott OBrien

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IT PAYS TO THINK BIG

I am playing big. It does not serve me to play small. To have a life filled with meaning and purpose I need to take the stage in my own life and to shine the spotlight on my greater good. If I think big, I attract big experiences into my life.

IT serves us to think BIG

It also serves us to play BIG

And it pays us to avoid the small version of ourselves and our life.

Too many of us concentrate too much effort and time on the small version of themselves... and on others.

Too many people underestimate themselves... play themselves down... fail to take the stage which becomes their real life.

So why do we just find it so hard to play BIG?

But if we wish to have a life filled with meaning and purpose and, of course, fulfilment we need to play out our bigger picture.

We need to shine our light.

We need to shout from the rooftops.

We need to come out... to speak out... to proclaim... to be noticed.

Souls unexpressed hide behind others, stay out of the spotlight, fail to leave their front door for fear of what might lie beyond.

Souls unexpressed do not move out of their comfort zone.

But a soul seeking expression goes out into the world with passion and purpose.

A soul seeking expression rocks... a soul seeking expression is not afraid to be outspoken... a soul seeking expression is not afraid to go against the crowd when the crowd is not speaking love.. and a soul seeking expression is not scared of anyone.

To live our purpose we have to be prepared to do what our heart tells us even if our mind is saying it is too risky, too demanding, will take too long or is to unorthodox.

To live our purpose we have to take new paths, chart new waters and take on board new challenges.

Life happens when we take action... not when we procrastinate or hold back or are afraid of change.

If we want to reflect in our life our true nature... who we really are... our essence which is love, of course...we have to release what keeps us small.

We have to release what limits us.

We have to release what restricts our freedom to sing our song or dance our dance.

We have to release that which keeps us in the fear zone because we really need to be in the room of love.

So it is time we gave up bad energy, bad habits, addictions, negative behaviour and relationships that have allowed us to stay small.

So it is time we gave up getting involved in other people's dramas, attracting the same old non working relationships and putting up with the same old abuse.

So much of our life is unproductive, time wasting and energy draining.

This is the part we need to see less of and let go of... so that we can fulfill our life's purpose.

We now have to live the story that is held in our beautiful hearts and get away from the repeating patterns that seem to be recorded in our out of control minds.

When we feel and act small, we are putting out a message to the universe that we are small... and small is lacking.

Therefore, we are more than likely to attract into our life other people and other situations that confirm this so called reality to us.. small people attract small people and small things.

But when we feel and act big, we are putting out a message to the universe that we are abundantly large.

So we draw into our lives larger and more fulfilling experiences that mirror back to us how big we are in the scheme of things.

To connect with our highest vision, our highest good and, indeed, our highest self we need to proclaim and feel our magnificence.

This is not arrogance or conceit.

In fact, the arrogant are usually people who lack self esteem and have a low opinion of themselves so they put on an unauthentic veneer.

So today, let us play BIG. And as we think and become BIG, we manifest experiences which bring about our greater good and greater well being. We become GREAT

And our souls just need to be GREAT.

So dear and beautiful friend.... do open your heart and share what is going on for you on this subject or any subject

I love you,
Scott OBrien

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